Breaking free the conscious mind is easy over time. The first and most important step is to release the idea that your an owners pet. You have to relinquish your slave position and start to create with your own ambition. It does not matter if your married or not, the future of your children depend on that start.
If you continue to be a part of the old plan, you will find that your future is dammed. The only way to truly be free is to exercise your power from within like a breeze. There is no worry or no laws to bind what the universe has declared is divine.
The days grow closer to the cabals final demise, so I think a radical thought change from you may just be wise. There are so many things that were breed on white lies, that they can no longer fool you, it's because we are no longer blind.